Three Essential Ingredients for a Happy Marriage

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Happy marriages depend on three simply ingredients:

1. Communication

2. Knowledge About Your Partner and Yourself

3. Putting Your Partner First

Let's take a closer look at these three factors and how they work together to create a healthy, happy union.

1. Communication
Words are what connects us with one another. When words are used correctly, they generate comfortable and endearing feelings. When we speak, it is important that we present our ideas using carefully selected words. How you say something is often much more meaningful than what you say. For example, making a joke about your wife's appearance can be very hurtful, not because you dislike her outfit, but because you transmitted this information in a hurtful manner.

One of the most important factors of communication is listening. Knowing how to be a good listener can really give your relationship a boost and improve your marriage. To become a good listener, simply ask your partner questions. Once they have supplied an answer, respond by summarizing what you have just heard. When you listen to your partner, and he or she to you, you put an end to bickering, hurt feelings, and frustration. Good listening skills enable you to become a better communicator and a better partner.

2. Knowledge About Your Partner and Yourself
We are all different – from our culture to our personalities, every person has their own individual quirks. The more you understand these unique characteristics, both about yourself and your partner, the less conflict you'll encounter. Begin this journey of discovery by learning more about your family and your partner's family. Spend time with them and interact with these people in a more meaningful and effective manner. This interaction will give you insight into how you can become a better, more tolerant partner.

3. Putting Your Partner First

Happy marriages are based on what I like to call a "win-win" formula. This is because both partner's put the other person's needs first. This is actually very easy to do, all it really takes are a few daily acts of kindness. For example:

• Do favours for your spouse

• Express warm greetings

• Help out

• Be sensitive to your partner's feelings

• Avoid anger at all costs

• Be concerned about the emotional and physical wellbeing of your partner

• ...and many more!

When your partner feels that he or she is your main priority, they will automatically feel loved, cared for, and respected. When these little acts of kindness are repeated daily, week after week, they create an emotional closeness that becomes the very fabric of a relationship.

Hopefully your marriage is a happy and healthy one, but if it is not, don't be afraid to seek help from an outside source. Sometimes all it takes is a third party to help you get your priorities straight and enhance your relationship. If ever you feel that you need help sorting out conflicts in your marriage or family, please don't hesitate to give me a call. I am always here to help.